A friend loaned me "Although Of Course You End Up Becoming Yourself," a book about a road trip with David Foster Wallace. The back has this quote:
"If you can think of times in your life that you've treated people with extraordinary decency and love, and pure uninterested concern, just because they were valuable as human beings. The ability to do that with ourselves. To treat ourselves the way we would treat a really good, precious friend. Or a tiny child of ours that we absolutely loved more than life itself. And I think it's probably possible to achieve that. I think part of the job we're here for is to learn how to do it. I know that sounds a little pious."
I've been thinking about that quote a lot, and looking at who I am a bit differently. I think so much of what I do and say and how I react to things is driven by my fear of someone offering me a ball and suggesting that I might like to bounce it. Anyway, I don't have anything fully formed to say about it yet, but I'd really love to stop it.